Relationship style can vary. I need both closeness and freedom. Long ago I went on a date with someone I met on okcupid–J. He was a white guy, abled, married, straight. We went to coffee at a place near my home, after he got off work one weekday. We talked and seemed to like one
It was really smart, for you to love him. You used your brilliant mind, brilliant in your own unique way. To know him, hear every word he said and treasure each word like a fucking jewel. You responded, met him where he was, cared about everything he said. You heard him literally and heard his
“So do you have a thing for E?” I asked my spouse, the apple of my eye. “Do I have a thing for E?” he asked, looking up at me. “Yeah, like do you have a crush on her?” “Yeah?” he said. “Aw!” I said. “Like you wanna do it with her? Like you masturbate
dear Friend, I told you if I ever had the chance to hold your sexuality, if that was something you ever handed to me, I would hold it with so much tenderness. It would be a thrill of my life, to be trusted with such a sacred, exquisite thing, to love so honestly. I think
When I met my spouse, I thought he was a man. He was skinny, had no breasts, long hair, so much kindness. Glowing with kindness. Then we got together, and I was fully in love with him. But I was confused because he was so different from men I’ve known! behavior All the other men
I woke up in the hotel from a leg cramp and a dream about my best friend, who is an ex. Long ago when we were teenagers, yes. We were girlfriends. In the dream, she needed to do a stressful thing, and it would help if I left. But we didn’t actually want to be
Here’s more about aesthetics because I figured out what I was trying to say last time! pretty “Do you think I’m pretty?” I asked my spouse. It was idle pre-bed chatter. “Yes,” he said. “Do you think I’m…hella pretty?” “Yes,” he said. “You seem to think I’m pretty…when I’m sucking your dick,” I said. “Yes,”
Hey, aesthetics is a fancy word about what’s beautiful and pretty and appealing. There’s a whole area of philosophy, about aesthetics. Then there are workers who help people look more beautiful, and they can be hairdressers, nail experts, makeup artists, aestheticians. What about me? I’m a neurodivergent fat woman, and I was poor almost my
Ok, here is the promised vibrator review. The first day I got my new vibrator, I went to bed with my spouse and we tried it out. This vibrator is heavy for its size, small, and intended for clit stimulation. It has a cleft, or two prongs, and the idea is that your clit can
Dear friend, Can we go to a magical land where you’re not stressed and scattered, and have resources to have a conversation where you answer my questions? They might be difficult. You’re always at the edge of what you can do, and I feel like a jerk for making conversational demands. They’re really requests. Maybe