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customer service

This meme about customer service depicts someone doing sex work.  But it reminds me of how working retail felt for me.  I stroked the egos of a bunch of nasty white guys who were customers, while dodging the harm of coworkers who all had their own agendas and assnesses also.  I had to be reliably

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about love

“Hey, I wanna tell you some stuff, but it’s not romantic,” I said to my spouse.  We were cuddling.  This is about love. “It’s ok,” he said. “Ok, well.  You know I was reading that article about that health issue, and they mentioned one of those gene testing things.  I thought it was for determining

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breast

the prettier I am, the angrier the men are.  one of the men who lives here said to my spouse, “you need to share,” pertaining to me.  when I wear tank tops, my shoulders seem to hurt him.  I feel sad like I should wear a potato sack for clothes, like do you really need

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normal man

When I met my spouse, I thought he was a man.  He was skinny, had no breasts, long hair, so much kindness.  Glowing with kindness. Then we got together, and I was fully in love with him.  But I was confused because he was so different from men I’ve known! behavior All the other men

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dating

I have one good friend who’s dating.  She broke up with her boyfriend a few months ago, and she’s free. She tells me about her dating experiences.  Sounds like a shitshow.  But she wants different things from what I want. fat As a fat person, I endure the pain of being mis-seen and projected upon,

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freedom and self-love

My friend sent me a link to this song that made him think of me.  It summarizes ideas that I believe really hard about freedom and self-love. I love my body, and I enjoy loving my body.  Definitely I want to talk about that, on this blog and everywhere, and laugh publicly at the oppression

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transness is desirable

I’m loving trans friends, of the present and the past.  Here are some thoughts for Trans Day of Remembrance.  Transness is desirable. thank you Thank you to my trans friends and partner, for being close to me and sharing your reality with me, which is a reality as valid as any.  Maybe more valid. I

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gender anarchy household

respect me: do you respect me? him: I love you. me: but do you respect me?  always? him: yes. me: is love a type of respect?  or are they separate? worship me: I want you to worship me. him: I do. me: no, I mean formally.  worship the hell outta me, then fuck the shit

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