My spouse was upset that their friend was not getting back to them and not making time to see them. My spouse was upset to the point of losing sleep about it. “Is there something wrong with me?” my spouse asked. “No, sweetheart,” I said. “You’re a good friend–you’re amazing. There’s something wrong with the
Recently I purchased a strap, which was a big deal emotionally. I had wanted one for 20+ years. Also, it was an expensive purchase. I’m sorry it costs hundreds of dollars to affirm gender. When I tried out the strap, my mind was blown. This post is what I learned from having my own dick.
Having sex with my spouse recently, I wanted to be called bitch a lot. My spouse was kind to me, or mean in a round about way, speaking to me as I requested. When he said, “I love you, bitch,” that was my favorite. Yes, I want my spouse’s love. I want my spouse’s love
Dear friend, I worried about you, when you were headed to another state to do direct action and risk arrest. Partly I’m worried because you’ve never been arrested. I’m proud of you for wanting to make a better world. But I know that in direct actions, there’s risk with police violence. Things happen unexpectedly. There
My spouse and I went to a hot springs, and it was my first time in a clothing optional space. Well, the sex parties we enjoy are clothing optional. But this was more nudity and felt different. Strangely, it felt sexier at the hot springs than the sex parties.–at least our first visit on a
When I was in love with my friend who’s a trans woman, she brought up muffing as sex my spouse and I could do together. I had never heard of it. Muffing is when you finger the canals where someone’s balls descended from. (The balls can still go in the canals, like when someone is
I wanted to tell you about the hot springs that my spouse and I visited in California last month. But on accident, I got swept up writing about power dynamics among queer people. So this post is just the gay part of the hot spring post that I hope to finish soon. costuming How do
I wore my black Feel Your Feelings tank top to the sex party along with my black kilt. The words of the shirt are all caps in neon colors and white, standing out boldly on the black. The Feel Your Feelings shirt is a ringer, so there are thin white lines at the neckline and
Going down on my spouse’s ass was more emotional than I ever could have imagined. So much I learned, I had no idea I would learn. Previously I thought assholes were embarrassing and dirty. I had no idea they can be tender, sweet, vulnerable places to deeply love. It’s like I discovered a whole new
content warning: This post centers the word faggot, which some find offensive. faggot My spouse and I and our homegirl were on a road trip. On the freeway, headed north–strangely, I was driving. Driving is not something I do much. A motorcycle was behind me for a long time. “Do you think it’s a pig?”