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rapping about vulvas

Rapping about vulvas is brilliant.  Telling our cunt stories is a worthy project.  Yes.  Thank you, Awkwafina, for rapping about vulvas, so wonderfully. My Vag, I have to admire the cleverness, the boldness, and bravery.  It hurts, when she insults fat disabled people.  That’s me–fat and disabled.  But I have my charms, and my fat,

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ritual unsent letter

punishment

I read something about punishment, and it made me think of you.  I don’t believe in punishment–prisons, parents hitting kids, punishment in relationships that are supposed to be sweet, like friendships and partnerships. Seems like consequences are inevitable, but something about the “I am right–you are wrong, so you must suffer,” creeps me out like

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theory

my ass

My ass is huge and trustworthy.  Yes, my ass will be my ass, all day, without fail.  It’s big enough to confound chairs.  It’s hella pretty, though odd. Odd with the lower, flatish wide part, and the upper part, also wide, which has a fat pad over my tailbone.  Also considered odd could be its

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what poly means

What poly means can vary.  For my own life, I don’t like the term polyamorous–I like non-monogamy or open relationship.  Openness feels happy, for me–like the sky.  Open field, open heart. Poly makes me think of parrots, polygons, and annoying, selfish white people who think they’re the center of the world.  Their relationships seem extra

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unsent letter

emotional

Hey, been thinking about how you gave so much to me. It was amazing. Explaining to a friend, I was emotional, crying about loving you, missing you, and the things you didn’t talk to me about–questions unanswered, topics avoided. She summed up what she heard, “I’m sorry he was emotionally unavailable.” I was like–what?! I

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theory

my first real boyfriend

My first real boyfriend–yes, he was a tenor sax player and math whiz.  I always mention those things, easy to start with.  The long essay I wrote about inventing sexual ethics–I describe him briefly, there.  He was a tall white guy with blond hair. But lots of things, I never told anyone.  Who would I

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smut theory

spider

“Do I have a spider on me?” he asked. “No–I don’t think so!” I said.  “Come over here.  Let me do a spider inspection.” He came to me, beautiful.  I looked him over.  “What kind of spider might I be looking for?” I asked. “Big like a Daddy Longlegs.” “Turn around,” I said.  I looked

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smut theory

sex injury

“My ass hurts and my legs hurt.  It’s a sex injury.  I wonder if I could get a grant for that,” I said.  “I need a grant to buy more…cauliflower.  To fuel me, so I can have more sex with you, and get more sex injury.” My spouse and I were taking an early morning

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smut

feelings

“My mouth is sore from you fucking it,” I said, as we cuddled after sex.  I said it more like a purr, full of feelings. the sex He visited me in the bedroom.  I wasn’t on my phone, reading, crafting, or writing.  I was just lying there, thinking about sex.  He stood by the side

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how to do relationship

There was someone on the fetlife fans fb group asking an advice question.  He met someone in a regular life context, and wants to try being with her–he’s dommy and asked how to introduce kink.  I read some responses that grossed me out.  But I’ve been thinking a lot about how to do relationship: communication,

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