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sex gratitude

Here’s a list of my sex gratitude. respect Thank you for caring about my well-being, pleasure, and safety.  Thank you for caring about my whole life including before you arrived on the scene, and if there’s time that I live without you.  Your responsible kindness–in bed and outside of bed–makes me want you.  I want

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safety into me

I wanted you to fuck the safety into me. I wanted your hands on me for a much longer time. I wanted to matter to your body. I wanted your unique intelligence up in my unique intelligence. I wanted to see how being close to you would change me. I wanted someone to collaborate with

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no journey

I was loving someone recently who held me skillfully but sent mixed messages and did not want to do intimacy.  I learned a lot.  I’m sorry there’s no journey we can take together.  In any kind of relationship, I need responsible, consistent, gentle, and creative love.  I need to see the other person clearly and

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the altar

When I soaked black lentils on the counter at the same time you marinated tempeh on the counter, I pretended you were my friend. I hope your meal was as delicious as mine. I dodged you in the kitchen as well as I could, no longer crying about your leaving. I’d memorized your departure date,

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questions about sex

I was making a list of questions about sex for another post, and I really like them.  So I decided to put the questions into their own listy post.  They help me think ideas I never thought before. Sex is something I feel a lot about, and deeper thinking about it could be a nice

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ways of sexual expression without a partner

Hello, I was thinking about ways of sexual expression without a partner.  The topic came to mind because I want more solo sex and sensuality in my life.  Please consider this previous post about a sex dream I had, where the neglected naked girlfriend was me. Also I was talking to a new acquaintance about

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to come

“I want you to come,” my spouse said.  We were in bed, naked and cuddly  It was post-lunch, and I’d just asked him what he wanted. “You don’t come as much anymore,” he added. “That’s true,” I said.  I pondered my stress level, privacy, hormone changes, grief, energy level, vulnerability, desire.  “But there are things

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why I like subbing

Hello, I wanted to explain more why I like subbing.  This pic of a sub is so beautiful too–I’ve been wanting to use it for something.  Please enjoy this listicle. pleasure of subspace Subspace can be addictive.  “Please tell me I’m a good slut,” I request of my spouse.  He tells me I’m a good

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breast play

“There’s something I’d like sexually,” I told my spouse, thinking of breast play.  We were lying in bed, doing post-lunch, cuddly and close.  “Can I tell you about it?” “Yes, please,” my spouse said. “Well I was thinking maybe tomorrow…  If you would touch, lick, suck on, and play with my breasts.  Breast play for

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summer art school

Summer art school was a great learning experience.  I had a lot of firsts there, and I want to tell you. Queer stuff, sexuality, law breaking, silliness.  I was 16 years old, curious, and wild.  Here are ten things I did for the first time at summer art school. 1. smoking Smoking tobacco cigarettes was

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