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smut theory

spider

“Do I have a spider on me?” he asked. “No–I don’t think so!” I said.  “Come over here.  Let me do a spider inspection.” He came to me, beautiful.  I looked him over.  “What kind of spider might I be looking for?” I asked. “Big like a Daddy Longlegs.” “Turn around,” I said.  I looked

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how to do relationship

There was someone on the fetlife fans fb group asking an advice question.  He met someone in a regular life context, and wants to try being with her–he’s dommy and asked how to introduce kink.  I read some responses that grossed me out.  But I’ve been thinking a lot about how to do relationship: communication,

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unsent letter

what I wish

This is what I wish the Joker of Hearts would say. dear Nest, I miss you so much and think about you every day.  Txting you was one of my favorite parts of the day.  I miss showing you pictures too, because a good plant pic or graffiti pic, I knew you would lose your

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unsent letter

genie

Again I was lying in bed, trying to sleep.  My mind was roaming around a lil bit, over the hills of the past.  I remembered that time we were pretending you were a genie.  Do you remember that? I can’t recall why we were pretending that.  Maybe because I said you looked like a genie

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theory

anger

I felt angry, which is ok–any feeling is ok with me, as long as I can feel it and move through it.  Anger tells me something is wrong–usually that I’m not getting what I need, or something wrong is happening, to me or another person. It really hurt me, to be dropped by someone I

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unsent letter

weed

high I hope it’s ok to send you this art which I bought for you, a few weeks ago.  I don’t know what else to do with it.  Seems appropriate to send, in a way, since weed is what you choose instead of me. Weed symbolizes irresponsibility, to me.  I have a friend who smokes

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theory

breakfast

“You’re great,” he said.  I had made him breakfast using the materials provided by our airbnb host. “You’re great!” I said.  “You’re the extra great who makes me masturbate.” “You’re funny,” he said. “Yeah, I am funny!” I said.  “You’re right about that.  You get the funny for free.  The rest, you have to pay.”

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theory

relationship bill of rights

Someone online mentioned this Relationship Bill of Rights, and I took a look, not expecting anything helpful there. Wow, I was blown away.  So many good facts collected beautifully.  It’s on a polyamory website, but many of the rights apply to monogamous relationships too. https://www.morethantwo.com/relationshipbillofrights.html I like to read this list and pause after every

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theory

age differences

Someone on a kink group I like asked about big age differences in relationships.  I saw a bunch of answers from grown men in their 40s doing it with young early 20s women, saying how great it was to dominate these young women, as they’re so pliable and eager to learn! Someone said he only

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theory

relationship style

Relationship style can vary.  I need both closeness and freedom. Long ago I went on a date with someone I met on okcupid–J.  He was a white guy, abled, married, straight.  We went to coffee at a place near my home, after he got off work one weekday.  We talked and seemed to like one

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