vibrator review

Ok, here is the promised vibrator review.  The first day I got my new vibrator, I went to bed with my spouse and we tried it out.

This vibrator is heavy for its size, small, and intended for clit stimulation.  It has a cleft, or two prongs, and the idea is that your clit can be between the prongs.  I think my clit is too big, so it doesn’t fit in there well?

The little instructional handout it comes with says not to insert it into a vagina or ass, with cute glyphs I bet you can imagine.  I got one that’s vivid blue.  It charges in a usb port and is called Duet Flex by Crave.  I bought it for $109 plus ten bucks shipping.  That felt decadent, but I was swayed by great reviews.

sensation

“I turned the vibrator on to feel with my fingers–I almost had a fingergasm!” I told my spouse, the afternoon I received it.  How exciting.  I knew that goodness with in store for me.

It was confusing on the website because there’s a version of this vibrator that has customizable vibration patterns.  That fancy version costs ten dollars more, I think.  I didn’t feel the need for customization or to program my vibrator–that seemed like overkill.

The page says they found the 12 most popular patterns to make this version I have.  But it seems to have four patterns?  But maybe each has three strength levels, so that’s 12?  That part was confusing.  I could have used more clarity there, on the website.  I think these are the vibration patterns.

1.  steady standard vibration

2.  vibration in an even, up and down wave

3.  vibration that turns on and off abruptly, over and over

4.  individual vibrations switching back and forth, each side of the vibrator–it has two motors

ironic

The ironic part is that I used the vibrator on my spouse, before I used it on myself.  Ironic because I bought it for me.  But I love my spouse very much and like to include him.  It’s fun to share a toy!

That first night we tried it, we were lying in bed, naked.  “Can I go like this?” I asked my spouse, motioning the vibrator toward his dick.

He said yes, so I touched the vibrator to his erection.  First the head only, then his whole dick.  I tried the different vibration patterns.  “Does this feel good?” I asked, touching it to his balls.  He liked that too.

But I have the idea–like “every blowjob is a good blowjob” for the most part–his dick is a slut.  He just wants it touched, sucked, envaginated, looked at, smiled at, discussed.  Dick attention is his joy–the slutty, happy, uncomplicated, unsubtle desires of a joyful erection.  He didn’t want to experiment with the different settings for science–he wanted to come and make me come.

me

Then we tried the vibrator on me.  I felt the different sensations.  I struggled a little with where the vibration was strongest.  Sometimes it felt like it was vibrating my hand more than my cunt.  I have sensory issues, so vibrators could be extra weird for me.  But I’m curious.

The stop-start setting interested me.  The contrast between on and off was appealing.  But I’m capable of putting it on my cunt and removing it; I don’t need the device to do that for me.  So I’m not sure that’s really desirable.

My clit didn’t really feel surrounded, in the vibrator’s cleft.  Maybe the vibrations had a slight numbing effect–over stimulation?  But I think the flexiness isn’t flexy enough, for my clit, which is big, so the prongs would need to spread more easily.

My spouse wanted to fuck me, and we left the vibrator on my clit as he fucked me, which felt great!  He liked it too.

then

Afterward, I asked my spouse to wash the vibrator and charge it for me.  A day or two later, I noticed it back at my bedside, on a tissue.

“Hey, did you wash that for me?” I asked him.

“Yeah, and charged it,” he said.

“Wow!  That’s service!  Thank you!’ I said.  I felt loved and supported.

Since then I have used the vibrator a few times.  It’s definitely good, but I’m still getting used to it.  The small size makes it cute, and it will be easy to take to go.  But the small size also might not be ideal considering my disabilities and fatness.  If I use pillow skillfully, that helps.

It was fun to put the vibrator on my clit and lie on my side, keeping the vibrator in place with my legs, and touch my nipples with my hands, humping the vibrator to feel it in slightly different ways.

overall

I am still getting to know this device.  This vibrator review is a bit early.

I’m glad I bought it–it’s great to try, and I hope it lasts a long time.  But it’s not the miracle I hoped for.  Vibrators symbolize liberation and empowerment, but my hand is my best friend.  No product is going to do it for me like I can, and my spouse can.

I am definitely not a skinny white lady, hugging my vibrator after coming on it, eyes closed, smiling, in a glowy world of a white bed, wearing pretty sheer lingerie.  But that might be a neat world to visit.  I would go there, if I could.