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up

This morning I woke up at 4 something.  My spouse was up already, watching a movie on his phone.  He’s been respiratory sick for more than a month, and he’d woken himself up coughing. “You wanna come back to bed?” I asked. He finished the last ten minutes of his movie and came back to

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faggot

content warning: This post centers the word faggot, which some find offensive. faggot My spouse and I and our homegirl were on a road trip.  On the freeway, headed north–strangely, I was driving.  Driving is not something I do much.  A motorcycle was behind me for a long time. “Do you think it’s a pig?”

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uterus

“Do you like touching me on my abdomen where my uterus is?” I asked my spouse. “Yes,” he said. We were in bed, and I was lying on my back.  My spouse was kneeling by me, naked, touching my bare abdomen in a circle. “Does it make you think about fucking me, and your dick

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you’re a good sub

“You’re a good sub,” my girlfriend said.  “So good at saying what you need.” Wow, we were at the rose garden to watch a play.  I must have given her a strange facial expression, because she knew I had a big reaction inside. “What?” she asked. “God, I love hearing that,” I said. “That you’re

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girlfriend

“I don’t want to be anyone’s girlfriend,” she said. That was disappointing to hear because I wanted to hold this dear friend, cuddle her, kiss her, possibly have sex with her, and be close to her in a significant way.  I wanted to be sweetly interdependent for a long time. So I was like–oh well. 

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language

Sexual slang is important and totally respectful language.  A close friend and I talk about this.  The slang hurts her–she finds it disrespectful. So I’ve been thinking about why I love sex slang.  One reason is resisting authority and love of DIY.  Dictionaries and doctors don’t own the right to label my body parts.  I

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text sex

I never really had text sex before yesterday.  There’s a friend I’ve been closer and closer to.  They live elsewhere, and I was amazed how completely I wanted to make love with them.  Usually it takes me a while, until I’m ready for sex.  But my body felt so ready, so quickly. Maybe I’m getting

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ten dirtiest hottest words

Someone on fetlife asked–what are the dirtiest words.  I listed what I consider the dirtiest words, and hottest. no I like saying no, while my spouse fucks me, holding me down.  Or while he rubs my cunt, a finger pushed between those lips and pressing my clit.  Sometimes we just started, and it hurts because

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