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what changed

What changed after I wrote the threesome essay is I feel less sure that threesome is possible.  I’d love to live another 40 years, and I hope there’s lots of joy in my future. But I realized that my spouse qualifies as a senior now, some places.  His disabilities worsen, and mine do too–more pain,

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imagination

I was talking with my therapist the other day.  She said, “It’s all imagination.  You know how when you go to a place like an amusement park?  There will be one of those wooden things, painted on one side, with a hole in it, and people stick their face through it, so someone else can

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theory unsent letter

hurricane

dear Friend, I have this fantasy of renting an airbnb near you.  You could come over every day, and we could cook for one another.  You could tell me how many hugs per day I was allowed to hug you, and I could max out my quota. You liked my visit fantasy, when I texted

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relationship bill of rights

Someone online mentioned this Relationship Bill of Rights, and I took a look, not expecting anything helpful there. Wow, I was blown away.  So many good facts collected beautifully.  It’s on a polyamory website, but many of the rights apply to monogamous relationships too. https://www.morethantwo.com/relationshipbillofrights.html I like to read this list and pause after every

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