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reasons to be poly

This meme is playful, the reasons to be poly, and this brain ranking.  It’s not to be taken seriously–the point is the D&D joke at the end.  But I saw my reasons are not on there. My main reason to have open relationship is resilience through diversity.  It’s a permaculture concept.  I wish for a

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consent

Briefly over zoom, I saw a friend’s sticker about consent, saying it’s like fries.  I was really confused.  What?  Weird comparison. what it is Consent to me is clear, comforting, sometimes formal, and crucial.  Sacred, even!  A standard yet tender way to show love, and give respect and care to other people. Consent is how

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respect of sexual needs

My spouse and I went away on a trip.  When we came home, I realized that the power dynamic here is so messed up, in a way I had never articulated to myself.  It has to do with respect of sexual needs. It hurts the men who live here, when I wear tank tops.  Hurts

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gender anarchy household

respect me: do you respect me? him: I love you. me: but do you respect me?  always? him: yes. me: is love a type of respect?  or are they separate? worship me: I want you to worship me. him: I do. me: no, I mean formally.  worship the hell outta me, then fuck the shit

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