“Can I give you some feedback on the sex we had today?” I asked my spouse. “Sure!” they said. My spouse loves feedback, which is special. I’m often cautious about feedback; most people are. But my spouse wants to do well and has a strong sense of self. They’re not afraid of what others think:
“You’re safe,” my spouse said. They stopped hitting me. It was a shorter sentence than I had requested. My spouse knows what I want– I want to be safe more than anything. They go to the root. collar We were in bed in the afternoon. I’d asked my spouse to collar me while hitting me.
Drop is hell. I’ve been searching for ways to be kind to myself. There are cliches of self-care, like chocolate and bubble baths– so inadequate. Drop is like intense drug withdrawal, the worst PMS, the sickest depression. Yes, I feel like I will puke. I’m happy to try reassigning drop. Fortunately, it’s working. the beginning
How I like to be hit has changed over the years. My spouse and I are coming together with renewed interest and love, after I broke up with my brilliant young lover who I had been spending significant time with. It’s a huge life change to refocus on my spouse as the person I most
Yeah, tops are great. But topping is nothing without bottoming. It takes energy to receive as well as to give. I have to be emotionally ready to be penetrated, to cum for anyone, to welcome anyone to use my body. I prepare the soil of my spirit for an important experience. And I need time
Dear one, Years ago I was in love with my friend G who introduced me to the band Woven Hand. Yesterday I got a weird craving to hear them again but didn’t know the name of the band. I tried searching “dark country” and “dark country guitar” and finally found a playlist with a Woven
There are so many things to do at a sex club. My spouse and I were out of town, visiting the city, eating Thai food for lunch with an old friend. I mentioned that night we might go to a sex club we’d never been to before. Actually I mentioned it by name–my friend seemed
Having sex with my spouse recently, I wanted to be called bitch a lot. My spouse was kind to me, or mean in a round about way, speaking to me as I requested. When he said, “I love you, bitch,” that was my favorite. Yes, I want my spouse’s love. I want my spouse’s love
“You’re happy just getting your dick sucked,” I told my spouse. “I want sex that’s way more kinky.” “What do you want?” he asked. “I’ll do something more kinky.” desires Lately I have some specific kink desires but haven’t communicated them to my spouse. An easy desire is to move wedges and pillows toward the
I have four things I love to be hit with. These are my beloved impact implements. my spouse’s hands the flogger my spouse made of black parachute cord a colorful wooden spatula a shortened yardstick Yes, such good things. thuddy vs stingy I like a mix of thud and sting. My spouse’s hand is my