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sex gratitude

Here’s a list of my sex gratitude. respect Thank you for caring about my well-being, pleasure, and safety.  Thank you for caring about my whole life including before you arrived on the scene, and if there’s time that I live without you.  Your responsible kindness–in bed and outside of bed–makes me want you.  I want

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taking tylenol for sex

I’ve had chronic pain for decades.  But I’m a hippie of some kind–I avoid pharmaceutical drugs if I can.  Yesterday was my first time taking tylenol for sex. I’m sorry it came to that.  But I was in too much pain to cum, and it had been about a week since orgasm, much longer than

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new pants

He was wearing new pants, bright and colorful.  He bought them at an Asian import store in town, mostly Nepali, on a whim. Usually my spouse wears dude clothes, dressed as a hiker, with REI style nylon outdoorsy cargo pants and cotton tee shirts, earth tones, with hiker-style shoes.  So these bright rainbow cotton hippie

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blurry picture

This blurry picture was a phone accident.  I saw it among my photos and laughed, then put it through a couple filters to warm and brighten.  I like my spouse’s pubic hair, that dark glimpse of joy.  What a pretty bush. I like the fairy lights on the side, cheerful.  And I love the suggestion

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smut

do you want to

“Do you want to come on my tits?” I asked. “Yes,” my spouse said. I was lying in bed, naked and collared.  He was standing by the bed, beating off in my face, sometimes touching my nipples and enjoying my reaction. “Do you want to come in my armpit?” I asked.  My right arm was

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sex party

I went to my first bdsm sex party.  I went there to learn, and I did learn–more than I expected, about myself and others.  While I was there and for a day or so afterward, I felt very positive about the experience.  I was elated.  As the days pass, I feel less positive and less

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shame places

This morning I realized that it hurt so much because we touched each other’s shame places.  Rejection is hard.  But it hurt more than it needed to. What are your shame places?  Some people feel terrible for previous bad behavior.  Some are shamed by culture for body type disability poverty race and ethnicity gender queerness

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what sex is for

Hello, I’ve been thinking about what sex is for.  I was talking with my good friend–we were having a date, and I was happy she asked me some frank questions. daily “Do you and your spouse have sex every day?” she asked. Maybe I’ve mentioned it, or maybe she read about it in a blog

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ways of sexual expression without a partner

Hello, I was thinking about ways of sexual expression without a partner.  The topic came to mind because I want more solo sex and sensuality in my life.  Please consider this previous post about a sex dream I had, where the neglected naked girlfriend was me. Also I was talking to a new acquaintance about

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smut theory

what I fantasize about lately

“I need to write,” I told my spouse.  “I have some smut inside me, and I need to share it.  Not corn smut–not immoral smut.  Good clean smut.”  I want to write about what I fantasize about lately. love sex crushes Lately I don’t have a crush on anyone.  I’m in love with my spouse. 

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