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BDSM school

Someone on the fetlife facebook group asked–If you went to school for BDSM, what would you study? Sounds fun!  I wanna go to BDSM school!  I considered what topics stimulate me.  What do I ponder most often?  Then I answered: major in transcendence through ecstatic pain, minor in power. bdsm school I got a thrill

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sex events

Hey, I’ve been considering attending some online sex events.  There’s a kinky book club I thought you might be interested in.  I love talking about ideas with people!  Some fiction, some non-fiction. I’d like to learn about this stuff and be able to learn more, with other interested folx.  And maybe make friends with them,

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talk dirty to me

Hey, I saw this meme to help people learn to talk dirty–and to advertise someone’s business. It made me think about language during sex; I’ve heard some people find it awkward, yeah. Sexual fantasies are what I’m made of, and my fantasies can be a lot about language, and made of language.  I fantasize about

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looks can be deceiving

I don’t usually hear podcasts, but this morning I listened to this episode of Psych and the City.  It’s called Looks Can Be Deceiving: Equity in Sexuality and Disability.  It’s an interview with the co-founders of Disability and Sexuality Access Network.  They are Caz Killjoy and Amber DiPietra. I liked this podcast interview for the

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healing sexual trauma

what I’m doing I enjoy healing sexual trauma through love and BDSM.  This blog documents love, sex, bright ideas, and BDSM enactment of past sexual trauma.  Also there’s some smut in the form of erotica.  And a ritual or two.  The breast pics could be noted as well. I started this blog to have a

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sexually responsible: how I invented ethics and learned how to love

insert image here I looked up BDSM public domain images to plop into this post, and what I saw had nothing to do with what I actually did. the stuff we did wasn’t costly–I didn’t buy any costuming or gear.  I’m not a thin white woman with big tits, restrained and slightly grinning, suggesting naughtiness.

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