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new vibrator

“Guess what this is?” I asked my spouse.  My new vibrator arrived in the mail yesterday.  It was wrapped in pink tissue paper. “Soap?” he asked. I guess the sacred bundle was that size.  “No, but…it will make me clean!” I said.  Not sure how that made sense.  But he realized from my tone, it

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talk dirty to me

Hey, I saw this meme to help people learn to talk dirty–and to advertise someone’s business. It made me think about language during sex; I’ve heard some people find it awkward, yeah. Sexual fantasies are what I’m made of, and my fantasies can be a lot about language, and made of language.  I fantasize about

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disability and sexuality

I really like this organization, Disability and Sexuality Access Network.  I love disability, disabled people, disability justice, access.  Also, I’m curious about pain, illness, health done in an authentic way that actually helps, rights.  So many disabled people in this world, and we matter.  Our needs matter. Then sexuality is so important to me too–being

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transness is desirable

I’m loving trans friends, of the present and the past.  Here are some thoughts for Trans Day of Remembrance.  Transness is desirable. thank you Thank you to my trans friends and partner, for being close to me and sharing your reality with me, which is a reality as valid as any.  Maybe more valid. I

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gender anarchy household

respect me: do you respect me? him: I love you. me: but do you respect me?  always? him: yes. me: is love a type of respect?  or are they separate? worship me: I want you to worship me. him: I do. me: no, I mean formally.  worship the hell outta me, then fuck the shit

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