One of my favorite groups on a social media site is about lesbian sex. I’m fascinated by lesbians. I’ve never fully been a lesbian, but I’ve considered at different parts of my life– am I a lesbian? Whatever I am, I enjoy giving lesbian sex tips to strangers.
A lady was feeling guilty for not wanting sex with her long-term partner, asking for advice. She’s depressed, on psych meds, and works a lot to the point of exhaustion. Also sex has become a problem for them– it’s turned into a mess.
Are they traumatizing each other? Maybe!
These are my low-libido lesbian sex tips du jour.
lesbian sex tips
- I like sex earlier in the day when I’m not exhausted.
- You can ask her what she likes about sex– maybe you could do some parts of it easier than others.
- Could something brief be good, or does she need a long session?
- If it’s really touch she wants, cuddle or massage could work.
- Or if it’s orgasm, maybe she could masturbate for you while you tell her she’s beautiful.
- I like really brief sex sometimes, like a minute of oral sex after a shower, if that would be appealing.
- Could something one-sided feel ok?
- Making out in nature without any genital contact might be fun, depending: sexy energy without the actual sex, without pressure.
- If you’re artists, drawing each other naked could be fun.
- Or experimenting with costuming.
- If you like kink, impact might scratch an itch without actually having sex.
- If she’s craving attention, vulnerable conversation might help.
psych meds
SSRI was bad for me sexually, and getting off psych meds improved my health all around. That’s a whole other conversation. But good luck with all of this, I wished the depressed lady on social media.
I can be judgmental of people who are on SSRIs, like of course you’re depressed and anxious. Dance and touch grass. Escape capitalism, stop consuming junk media, and start having unmediated experiences of the Divine. Duh!
But a lot of people think they’re trapped in the rat race and can’t see the maze. Who am I to tell people what to do? They have children / grandchildren to feed, or they feel beholden to their car loan. Their cat needs surgery, or they need to pay for insulin. Hell if I know.
Actually I don’t tell people what to do directly, just in my head. Or lesbian sex advice on social media. Or like this, in this blog post. Sorry.
But I think we should draw each other naked. I used to draw my spouse as a daily practice, back when we were young. I’ll take my clothes off first.
