“I want you to come,” my spouse said. We were in bed, naked and cuddly It was post-lunch, and I’d just asked him what he wanted.
“You don’t come as much anymore,” he added.
“That’s true,” I said. I pondered my stress level, privacy, hormone changes, grief, energy level, vulnerability, desire. “But there are things you can do to improve conditions!”
“How can I help?” he asked.
“I’ll make you a list,” I said.
how to improve conditions for me to come
- Help me keep my stress low–help me exercise daily, eat delicious foods, talk to a few friends, connect with Mother Earth, and do all the things I need to do, for my wellness.
- Help me feel safe by touching my back, touching my legs and arms, kissing me, telling me I’m safe.
- Make sure my vibrator is charged and clean.
- Clean bed sheets and the sheet spread on the bed right, not wrinkled up and uncomfortable.
- Ask me what I want.
- Help me come first.
- Make sure a pillow is under my left shoulder when I’m masturbating.
- Take me on trips where we have more privacy and can make noise during sex.
- Ask me what I’ve been fantasizing about.
- Get dommy about it.
- Sexual touch and language outside of a full-on sex time experience.
you can tell me throughout the day
Looking into my eyes and grabbing my waist, hips, breasts, ass, shoulders will emphasize the truth of your sentence and be more effective in making me want to come.
- You’re so beautiful.
- You’re so sexy.
- I want you.
- I want to be with you and spend my life with you.
- You make me horny.
- Your tits make me wanna come.
- You’re a joy to spend my life with.
- I wanna fuck you.
- I wanna come all over your body.
- You matter to me.
- I live with you–I love living with you.
- I believe in you.
- I’m here for your well-being.
Say it slow while touching me. Look into my eyes. Say it more than once. Then ask me if I hear you and if I believe you. Ask me if I want it too. Doing this a few times a day will keep me wanting to come for you. This is good medicine.
thank you
My preference would be that you refer to these lists often. Please help me want to come.
Thank you for caring about what matters to me. Coming is good for my mentality and helps me sleep better. Thank you for doing health with me and seeing me for who I am.
